Rebecca Lynn Pope
I agree with a lot of points our sister said in her message to single women with unrealistic standards. I definitely don't want to be a cliche hitched woman preaching to the looking single woman but in order to obtain something different you may need to do something different and we are never too old to learn. I've found amongst my girlfriends and family members, a few systemic common symptoms, which can only be described as harsh judgements and unrealistic standards.
For example, the career woman whose blessed with good credit and a nice salary frequently overlook the hard working man whose means to an end is manual labor, because she assumes he's not in the same tax bracket. Or the exceptionally beautiful woman whose nose in the air because men have drooled over her most of her life won't give the common brother an opportunity to introduce himself because her ideal man is chocolate, six foot four inch stallion (you see more in a magazine) than on the street.
Our sister that is 40 and over and settling for anything such as bootie calls, being the side piece, being the sugar mama just about anything to psych herself into believing she will one day be worth more to this man. Ultimately she will never be anything to him because she have surrendered her standards out of pure desperation to age without a mate.
I love my sisters and I'm always willing to contribute knowledge, inspiration, corrections, and or helpful hints to them to find love and companionship. First things first, stop imposing on our strong black men with these absurd standards that any man worth having will not even entertain. Start loving yourself accepting being single for the moment if that's your calling for the moment. Take that time to get to know, love, and accept yourself in your solitude that way when your God bless you with your companion you will not only recognize him but you can love and accept him and get right to both of your happily ever after.
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